Healthy Hearts – 2018-03-25
In healthy people and relationships, having a real, heart to heart conversation is not to be feared as “conflict”, it is not something to hide from. In fact, it is often being proactive to resolve conflict before it occurs. But, it only works in two people who care about each other and about the relationship. For unhealthy people and relationships, it is an excuse to lash out. How we act during those difficult conversations reveals our heart – what it is filled with…
Are we all about love, respect, and being considerate of each other – hearing hearts and hurts so that the relationship can move forward? Our heart is filled with love, respect and consideration…
If we all about having an excuse to lash out and hurt others… to pour out bitterness and hatred… we are often all about playing victim… and we must protect that by shutting down conversation and using our anger and bitterness to control…
Oh, we reveal so much of our heart when bumped… which leads to the next question? When we see that ugliness, that illness… do we choose to heal it or hide behind blame and excuses?
As revealing as our reactions are… our actions are even more revealing. This is where we choose to remain a victim or rise a victor… it’s all in what direction we go with that next step.